You feel pressure. You feel it so strong that may become depressed some what.
However, the most effective way to let the pressure go away slowly or quickly is to face it.
Find your pressure.
Your pressure is the area where you can develop further, very likely.
Start step one to do the very thing that your pressure is coming from. Even the first step is to walk to someone, drive to somewhere, write the first sentence of your essay…
They will make a difference for you.
The most difficult forgiveness is the one you give yourself.
You may be hard on yourself, critical to yourself, or even frustrated at yourself not meeting other’s judgments.
These can happen to you, to me, and to everyone, because we are all human.
The wise and healthy way to face the situations is to forgive yourself.
You are not perfect.
However, you are who you are. You can do better. You are living your true self.
Your presence itself is perfect. It is the very reason you live the way you want. It is the very reason why you are you, not someone else. It is the very reason you are loved by yourself, by others.
Forgive yourself.
Love yourself more.
Live your true self.
Am American first time travelled to the Netherlands. He went to a restaurant for dinner and ordered a beer.
Waitress gave a bottle of beer.
“Can you open the bottle for me?” He to her when she turned around to leave.
“Can’t you open your own beer?” She shouted it back.
He thinks Dutch are too direct and somewhat not polite.
She thinks people should be independent and do things they can on their own.
A Chinese learns the story, she thinks Dutch is somewhat rude and has bad service in the restaurant.
No one is wrong in their opinions. Without understanding the context, the culture, things got lost in the interpretation.
You heard that culture eats strategy for breakfast.
Know the culture is the key to understand a situation.
Baby cries when she needs something.
Kids ignore their parents’s shouting for dinners when they are absorbed in playing.
Teens hangout with other teens, but not their parents.
They live truly.
For us, the adults. We can experimenting live truly…
Live truly is to live through the highs and lows in life. They are the same…. they are not the measurement of our success.
Live truly tries to Don’t accept NO for an answer.
live truly, you also can treat great success and terrific failure the same way. You are who you are. We pursue our goals through success or failure. They do not change who you are.
Live truly… experimenting… explore
When we are on holidays, we all hope the weather is good for outdoor activities.
However, sometimes weather has her own plan.
We are in Jeju island for a vacation. It rains. We decide to go out anyway.
There are not many people at tourist site due to the rain obviously. Then I see this family of three generations: grandma, her daughter and son-in-law, and her two grandchildren.
The grandma holds an umbrella to cover her and her daughter who holding a young kid. The husband walks with other kid wearing rain coats hand in hand leading the way.
They are chatting, laughing cheerfully in the rain. Contrast to others seem in a hurry, they are no hurry at all.
If you have the connection with the most important people in your life, they are the whole world to you. Nothing else matters that much. Rain does not matter too much to the happily connected family.
How many the most connected moments do you have daily? Find them. Treasure them. Live in those moments.
My parents got a nanny through an agency one month ago. Her job is to cook meals, do cleaning and some daily chores.
My mom has been teaching her where things about, how things work in the house, and even how to cook meals.
One month has passed. The nanny went away for a few days for holidays.
My mom told me today earlier she needs a new nanny.
Because this nanny does not pay attention to what my mom tells her. She could not remember how to cook the same meal after my mom taught her and did with her three times.
It does not matter what job you do, a nanny, a nurse, or a CEO, you need do your job.
Do the job. Do it well.
Otherwise, you do not serve the value the job calls for. And you are not deserved the job title.
We deliver and give, in order to receive. This is how the reciprocity works.
A baby is crying. She is crying for milk, she is hungry.
The young couple quickly prepare the milk for her and feed her. She stops crying and drinks her milk. She smiles at her mom and waves her hands happily.
A baby know what she wants and asks for it. Therefore, she gets what she asks for. And she becomes happy for getting she wants.
We adults frustrate because we are not clear for what we want.
Once we know what we want, we will ask for that, then we have a good chance we will get it, which makes us fulfilled and happy.
Find what you want at the first place.
My husband and I are going for a market plaza in Jeju island.
When we are getting closer, we can hear loud music and recorded shouting selling voices. Many small stalls owners are competing for consumers attention to get business.
After passing through a few noisy stalls stretches, we see along a few other stretches the stalls are much quieter and pleasant. These small vendors have displayed their goods nicely and attractively.
You see, to be heard does not mean to the loudest one.
To be heard is to find the right audience and serve them whole heartily.
To be heard is to show your strength and display it in a right way – the way your customers like and accept.
The key to be heard is to know your audience and your customers.
Planes always take off against the wind. It is the resistance that planes need for taking off from the ground and climb into the sky.
If you want to make a change, want to do something different, want to learn a new skill, you need to go against the resistance – lazy, pain, self doubt, uncomfortableness, vulnerability.
Only when you head on with your resistance, you will make progress, gain new experience, know how far you can fly.
Resistance is an indicator that you are on the right track to develop yourself further. Know your resistance, go against it to take off.
I like reading.
I read every day.
If I do not read for one day, my mind knows it. If I do not read for two days, my body knows it. If I do not read for three days, my husband knows it. If I do not read for four days, people working with me know it.
Read for me is a type of meditation. Reading is the time for me to recharge. Reading is the time I communicate with my mind.
Without reading, in the garden of mind weeds may start to grow. Reading keeps the weeds in my mind at the bay, and keeps my mind peaceful and cheerful.
Why do you read? What does reading make you feel?
We read to enrich our mind, body and soul.
A good book not only teaches us new knowledge, it also elicits our internal drives, potentials, and wants. A good book is a good friend, a coach, a resources that we can know more who we are.
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