set yourself free

When people say you are not qualified doing what you are doing, which is what you love to do, what would be you reaction?

Do you wonder if you have done things right? Do you doubt about what you do?

I had those moments of doubting and worrying. It felt awful. I felt not myself. I could not direct me to focus on other more important things for a while.


Some one said to me: “your life’s quality is decided by your courage, not by your fear.” We only have one life, live it without regret, live it fully.

I took one step to live for myself by redirecting to the question to myself: is this what I want?

By asking this question, I can feel my body’s reaction. If it feels free, feels specious, feels growing, then I will go for it. And it sets me free, I am a happy person.

Believe in yourself.

Set yourself free.

Live your happy life.

Signs of change

Autumn arrives.

She signals us she is here by changing tree leaves’ colors and blowing cool air. She sheds tree leaves by telling us her progress of changes.

What are your signals when you are making progress and changes?

Do you notice what is going on in your mind? How do you talk to others? Do you do anything differently from before?

Do you intentionally change your habit and do something new?

Serendipity does not happen randomly. It is a sign of change. It is the place where prepared mind meets the opportunity, it is the place where she signals that change is coming.

In a Daze…

You sometimes are in a daze. I am too.

I used to feel guilty of doing nothing, just in a daze…

Then I find that in a daze actually can help me to relax, expand myself in a way, because after a daze I usually feel more energized and easy to handle more things.

We also need sometime to take a break, in a daze a bit to reflect, gain self consciousness, stretch our space.

When we have more space, we can breath more easily, calm and happier.

Life needs us to be in a daze a bit from time to time.

Preparation for life

A friend has concerns regarding a meeting she is invited for next week.

The meeting will be with her biggest boss and HR head. She tried to ask the secretary, but she does not know either. This seems unusual.

My friend gets a little bit worried, confused, uncertainty and somewhat stressed…

How many other things can make you feel the same way in life?

There are many things in life happening without your full knowledge. We face surprises all the time.

It’s up to you on how to interpret what is coming to your way.

It is up to you on how to prepare yourself for any uncertainty.

It is up to you on make a choice whether you need worry about those uncertainty or not.

You will never prepare enough for anything happening in life. However, you can prepare yourself to have an open mind to embrace everything showing up in your life, whether you like them or not.

Be strong.

Be brave.

Be yourself.

Love life.

You will be okay.

Simply being

Some days you need simply find a place and being there to observe yourself and listen to yourself.

You can close your eyes, like doing a meditation, find a comfortable place sit down for just five minutes.

Observe what comes to your mind, your emotion, how does you body feel, what do you hear…

Let everything come and go the way they like, naturally, don’t fight with them.

Notice any sensations come from your body and feel them, not press them.

Simply being there for yourself.

Simply being is a way to recharge and relax yourself. Do it when you feel like.

The other self

Sometimes we are swamped by our daily engagements and obligations. We loose ourselves.

If you step out your body mentally and look at yourself – the other self, you may get insights on how to deal with your situations.

You can look the other self, how does she look like? Is she happy? Is she tied, sad, lost, curious, alert…?

What do you want to say to the other self?

What do you think the other self wants?

What do you want the other self look like? What do you want her to do?

What will she feel if you tell her what you observe, what you think of her?

Try these exercises sometime to yourself when you feel loosing yourself somewhat, or you want to figure out something.

We make progress by doing tests and exercises. To know yourself better is the primary task of your life.

Pressure and step one

You feel pressure. You feel it so strong that may become depressed some what.

However, the most effective way to let the pressure go away slowly or quickly is to face it.

Find your pressure.

Your pressure is the area where you can develop further, very likely.

Start step one to do the very thing that your pressure is coming from. Even the first step is to walk to someone, drive to somewhere, write the first sentence of your essay…

They will make a difference for you.