Tag: change

Abundance

When you have sands in your hand, the more tightly you grab the sands, the less sands you can hold in your palm.

Sometimes, your opportunities and your abundance need you to loose up, embrace whatever comes to your way.

You are born as a complete, whole and resourceful person. The abundance is all around you and in you.

You are your master, the captain of your life. You control your life and therefore your abundance by making your choices.

Any progress, one step, a mistake and wrong choice all make your life richer, more colorful and interesting. You can test all possibilities, only the sky is your limit – as a matter of fact, this is my limited statement. You certainly are not limited even by the sky!

There is no small step. There is no small stretch. There is no limit, if you can let it go.

Abundance is sense of mind without limitation.

Concentration

Focus on contribution makes an effective you as a person, it also makes a CEO runs an effective company.

The key to focus is the concentration.

You will need concentrate to be able to deliver and contribute.

You can build blocks of time focusing on particular topic, project of your priority. During these blocks, turn off your phone, close your email alerts, close your office door. Get yourself clear from noise and be effective.

With the increased constant disruption, concentration is the way leading to your focus, your effectiveness.

Know yourself

Know yourself is the first key step to become more effective, more mature, and gain more emotional and social intelligence.

To know yourself, you can try the two areas first:

  1. Learn and know your inclination and propensity of doing things. Notice those things you can do without “too much effort”, those things that seem coming to you naturally. These are likely your borne talent, strength.
  1. Loosen and stretch your mind muscle. Your mind is made of muscle. To grow your mind grow, you need soften and loosen it. In reality, you do not need to form any judgement quickly. Take your time and consider a wide range of possibilities before forming a judgement.

I have noticed that I form my opinion quickly very often. Study has shown that many of us do this all the time to seek for internal safety. This is also called negative capability, which means we are all capable to do this.

This negative capability is actually an advantage for our development. Be aware of your negative capability when it happens, observe it, and it can open other possibility – for us. It provide us the opportunity to consider other wide range of possibilities.

Practice your mind for reflection, observation, and reflection, think, re-think what happens to you.

This can make your mind flow, become more fluid, and prepare your mind for all possibility.

You know this: Chance only favors the prepared minds.

Know yourself first is to know others better.

What is your story today?

When you went through a difficult time, encountered frustrations, did you notice what’s going on with your thinking? Did you tell yourself a story? Did you make some statement, assertions, which you were not sure they were true or false?

I caught myself telling me that how others were wrong, how I was misunderstood, how was unfair for me…

when I came to my sense, I realized that many of the thinking was my assumption, biased views, out of self-pity and self-insecurity.

My story was not helpful.

It did not help me to get over the unpleasant situations. It did not empower me to find a solution for the situation. It did not activate me to see the situation from other angles.

Therefore, next time something bad happens, don’t dwell on how unfair it feels. Or unjust. Or poorly-timed. Don’t dwell on what you’ve lost. 

You can’t control what happened.

However, you can tell yourself a different story. And you can control how you respond. 

You can do this by noticing the moment of self story telling, and pay attention what kind of story you are telling yourself.

Make sure you are telling yourself a useful story that can energize you, can open your mind and set you free.

Put your energy into controlling how the story you someday tell yourself. And watch how the story turns out.

Focus on contribution

Whoever is working, no matter for herself or for somebody else or for an organization, she has to contribute her share of responsibility. This is the way showing your presence and your value.

Focus on contribution is the way for anyone to grow, to discover her potential, to have her impact in her cycle, community, society.

Focus on contribution is an essential element for any top management, any executive, any business owner, anyone self-employed.

Focus on contribution means you take responsibility for results. It means that you are accountable for the performance.

Anyone focusing on contribution has a growth mind.

Anyone who does not ask herself, “What can I contribute?” are not only likely to aim too low, she is likely to aim at the wrong things. 

Commitment to contribution is the commitment to responsible effectiveness.

You can ask yourself from time to time, “What can I and no one else do which, if done really well, would make a real difference to this situation or office or company?”

This will change the way how can you approach the situation, office, or company. You focus on contribution. You will become more effective.

Be a good person first

To be a successful person, to run a successful business, the first thing is to be a good person.

A good person is someone ethical – with integrity, kindness, and accountability first.

A person with ethics is someone trustworthy.

She admits her mistakes and knows her strength.

She commits to her promises with heart and sweats.

She simplifies things and is generous to give others her time, energy.

She is kind to make things clear to others, including her critics and compliments. This is kind in action.

Be a good person, you will attract other good people. Your good deeds will spill over to your life and career. A good life and good career are the consequences of being a good person.

Take a back seat

Sometimes taking a back seat is showing your leadership.

In this case, you fully trust the driver, because you give your permission to let the driver leading the road. And you give your safety to the driver’s hand.

You give your permission to allow the driver making mistakes on the way as well. In an another way, you give your leadership to the driver.

A leader is someone to create leaders.

Taking a back seat is supportive and brave.

Persuasive words and phrases

We live in an interactive world, and connect with people.

We need to influence others, persuade people every day, vice versa.

Certain words and phrases are powerful when you want to persuade people. And some words and phrases are effective when you refuse other’s persuasion or request.

Such as, the following Words and Phrases can be persuasive:

  • Because
  • Would you mind . . . 
  • I have a rule . . .
  • I just wanted to clarify . . .
  • Is there anything you can do for me?
  • Thank you.
  • This is just between you and me.

The following words and phrases can be powerful to say No:

  • I don’t do that.
  • I have a rule…
  • Thank you.
  • I am not interested.

What is your phrase to push you forward?

I use the word “to produce” for my daily reminder to do something useful, because my personal value is to be a useful person.

When I think of “producing” something useful, it inspires me to initiate my action and the action gets me closer to my dreams. “Producing” has been my phrase of action and inspiration.

This weekend, Simone Biles made history at the 2019 US gymnastics Championships. She said during an interview, “I feel like you should never settle just because you are winning or you are at the top. You should always push yourself.”

“Never Settle”.

Biles revealed her internal drive and altitude that makes her a champion by this phrase.

She competes against the greatest competitor – herself.

Don’t ever compete against someone else. You are your number competitor in your life.

What is your phrase to bring you up from the bed every day?

The ultimate goal in your life

What is the ultimate goal in your life?

I remember a story goes like this: a young man saw a fisherman lying on a beach enjoying sunshine. He came over said to the fisherman: “Why don’t you go fishing? Now it’s the season. You can make a lot of money.”

“What do you make lots of money for?” The fisherman asked.

“I make a lot of money so that I can retire early to enjoy my life.” The young man said.

“I am enjoying my life already. Why do I need to make more money?” The fisherman answered.

Pause a second here. Think what the fisherman said.

It can reasonably say that the ultimate goal in life is to maximize your total lifetime experience of happiness, to enjoy life.

To enjoy life, you get to take care of yourself first. You also get to treat others well in order to enjoy life, because you live in a community, a society.

A happiness formula may include:

  • Eat right

  • Exercise

  • Get good sleep

  • Have unfailing dreams

  • Pursue your freedom

  • Always learn something new

  • Simplify your life
  • Help others whenever you can

When you are happy, you make people around you happy. When people around you happy, they sustain your happiness. This is the cycle of life.

Happiness can be contagious. It’s the ultimate goal in life.