When you went through a difficult time, encountered frustrations, did you notice what’s going on with your thinking? Did you tell yourself a story? Did you make some statement, assertions, which you were not sure they were true or false?
I caught myself telling me that how others were wrong, how I was misunderstood, how was unfair for me…
when I came to my sense, I realized that many of the thinking was my assumption, biased views, out of self-pity and self-insecurity.
My story was not helpful.
It did not help me to get over the unpleasant situations. It did not empower me to find a solution for the situation. It did not activate me to see the situation from other angles.
Therefore, next time something bad happens, don’t dwell on how unfair it feels. Or unjust. Or poorly-timed. Don’t dwell on what you’ve lost.
You can’t control what happened.
However, you can tell yourself a different story. And you can control how you respond.
You can do this by noticing the moment of self story telling, and pay attention what kind of story you are telling yourself.
Make sure you are telling yourself a useful story that can energize you, can open your mind and set you free.
Put your energy into controlling how the story you someday tell yourself. And watch how the story turns out.
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