You are not happy about colleague A who bad mouthed you behind your back.
When you talked to colleague B, you almost mentioned how terrible A was… suddenly you realize if you do this, you are no difference from A. You know that gossips at work are killers for trust, killers for productivity.
You are a sensible person.
We need more sensible people at work to build better relationships.
Sensible in action is reflection of professionalism.
Sensible is glue at work, at home and among friends.
I know a number of Chinese friends who spoke Chinglish when they first arrived the North American countries in 1990s.
Because they learned English from their Chinese English teachers. They did not have experience to practice the English and did not know how to use it properly.
English immersion programs become very popular in China now. Students going to the programs have to use what they learn, because they have native speakers to talk to.
Learning if good, but enough. You have to use it.
Having insights are good. You have to test them and apply them to your action and life.
Learning by doing is a better way to master, develop what you.
If a patient’s cardiographs showing a straight line, we are facing a big problem. She may die if we don’t do something to make her beat again.
If her cardiographs showing waves of ups and downs, we feel good. We know our patient is alive and her heart is thriving.
To live is to thrive.
We seek opportunities, we pursue happiness, we learn new skills, we travel to find meanings in our lives.
We go through difficulty and happy times. We live our lives.
If we feel bored, feel nothing to do, feel don’t want to anything, we get a big problem.
When I had this feeling came to me, I pinched myself to check if I was still feeling anything. I did bizarre things to myself just to feel my existence.
All of our effort is to get satisfied with us, with our environment and feel alive.
Each of us is looking for a path back to the present: We are trying to find good enough reasons to be satisfied now.
With this realization, how are you going to pay attention to the present moment?
Find those making your current moment a quality one. Find those making you thrive. Find those sparking in your life and find a way how to get more of those thriving moments in your life.
Life is yours to live.
You have all the passion and energy and dedication to make this project work. You work 12-16 hours a day for nine months…
One day, you suddenly broke down by just one loudly No from your colleague, your teammate. He said No to you when you demanded his action, and he commented that you are not capable of doing what you do in front of your team – 20 colleagues.
“How could he do this to me? He is supposed to be my loyal workmate.” You felt lost face, like an imposter, and felt humiliated by wrongful comments…
You wanted to know why.
After many conversations, dialogues, and a few sleepless weeks, you learned that it’s the fear of change brought your colleague’s rebel. It got little to do with you.
However, by being wrongly accused it somewhat made you feel that you no longer need to pretend to know everything any more. The ego you had is disappearing. You feel much more breathable, more freedom coming to your way.
You break free.
You don’t need to pretend to be something you are not.
You don’t need to live other’s life, begin to live truly.
You don’t need to worry making mistakes.
You have stretched and grown more.
Vulnerability makes you stronger, braver, more present.
You walk on the road with good mood. And you step on a pile of sh*t by accident.
What would be your reaction?
Will you curse the sh*t? Will you blame your bad luck? Will you be going mad about it?
You probably say No to all the questions. It’s just a pile of lifeless sh*i after all.
What about something unpleasant and dirty staff happened to you at work?
Well, sh*i happens!
Laugh at it, forget it, and move on.
You have so much fun in life than a pile of sh*t.
To speak the truth saves money, resources, and it’s more effective and efficient.
But, it’s very hard for us to speak truth. It demands courage.
It took courage to tell that The emporia had no cloth on.
It needs an honest and frank and innocent mind to speak the truth.
We have many “The emporia’s new cloth” moments. These test our courage, character, and capability to tell the truth.
To change a culture, it needs you tell the truth from a small thing. Every change starts from one step at a time.
However, speaking truth cant be measured by small steps or big steps. Speaking the truth is reflection of your character and courage. It is a step to make a difference in the world.
To be better, to do better and to be success all need you to make a tough choice: which one is to keep, which one is to stop.
Oprah Winfrey said, “One of the hardest things in life to learn is which bridges to cross and which bridges to burn.”
To be better, you need to learn new things and new skills, grow new muscles, find new trails.
Therefore, you need abandon old habits, say NO to certain things, give up for things do not work for you: give up a project, give up a relationship, give up a friend…
To do better, it requires you to keep growing your courage to fight imposter syndrome, to be brave, to implement your action plan and be diligent.
Therefore, stop blaming yourself, stop complaining, focus on your process and enjoy it.
To be success, it requires you to be clear on what you will keep and what you will stop doing.
Therefore, do a regular reflection and check those “keeps” and “stops”.
Rome is not built on one day. It’s your choice to get it built the way you want.