Live your life, live your life, live your life

We all get to live our lives as long as we are alive.

Live your life seems obviously, naturally, and no one needs to debate or argue about it. It is a matter of fact.

If you think a little bit more, absorb the meaning of live your life, and what does it look like from now onward to really Live Your Life? To live a life worthy of living? To feel the joy, the tear, the happiness, the pain, the connection with others, the love…

Whatever happens in your life is your life, you have full permission – your birth right, to do things.

You have permission to be fearful to give a public speech;
You have permission to make mistakes and try again;
You have permission to fail and learn from it;
You have permission to write and publish them;
You have permission to love yourself first;
You have permission…

The list can go on and on.

Only when you break free from self limitation, you gain your permission to do more, to be more, to live your life fully.

Live your life whole heartily.

Live your life, live your life, live your life

We all get to live our lives as long as we are alive.

Live your life seems obviously, naturally, and no one needs to debate or argue about it. It is a matter of fact.

Whatever happens in your life is your life, you have full permission – your birth right, to do things.

You have permission to be fearful to give a public speech;
You have permission to make mistakes and try again;
You have permission to fail and learn from it;
You have permission to write and publish them;
You have permission to love yourself first;
You have permission…

The list can go on and on.

Only when you break free from self limitation, you gain your permission to do more, to be more, to live your life fully.

Live your life whole heartily.

Change others, Serve others

We want to have influence, to be impactful.

What is the key element to do so?

It’s not power, not authority, not loud voice, not force…

It’s your ability to serve others.

Only when you are able to serve others, you can connect with them and get trust from them.

Serve others mean you know what they need, what they want, and you are capable to provide these to them. Therefore, they listen to you.

Sometimes they don’t know what they want. It’s your responsibility to let them realize or see what they want and provide these to them.

These places are where your leadership shows. Where you serve others that you make your impact.

One connection at a time

What is the number one important thing in our life?

Relationship.

We live in a society, in a community, in a family. We are social animals. No one lives in vacuum.

Only when we have good relationships with people around us, with surroundings, we feel happy. We can get support. We feel connected.

Therefore, get connections and build relationships are essential for having a quality life.

It’s tricky to connect people. This needs you to get under people’s skin, have empathy, produce influence. This takes time to learn, practice. But it’s totally worthy it.

Be patient. Build one connection at a time. Over time, these connections are becoming a net. As the net becomes bigger, you grow stronger.

Dreams, Goals, Tasks…

You hear these three words very often: dreams, goals and tasks. What are in common among them?

May be not much. However, they are closely and intricately connected.

We all have dreams. They keep us alive.

Sometimes, we share our dreams with others and we get a sense of accomplishment.

Sometimes, we also share our goals with others and this also provide us a sense of achievement.

But, if you stop or hang over at these stages, it’s not a surprise. Because your psychological mind has played a game with you, ie. it makes you feel you’ve got there after you tell others about your dreams and goals. Therefore, you don’t feel and have the urgency to do anything about them.

The real thing that leads you to realize your dreams and goals is the task.

You need to do your tasks to make your dreams and goals come true.

“I long to accomplish a noble and great task; but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks as if they are noble and great ones.” Hellen Keller.

Find your daily tasks. Every tiny, small tasks will get you closer to your dreams and goals.

Leadership is a hard work

You want to be in a leadership. Do you know it requires hard work, very hard work to be in a leadership position?

You would be creative and strong to face uncertainty. You would be emotionally intelligent enough to deal with tough challenges with business acumen. You would be empathetic to your employees. You would be accountable and consistent for whom you are. You would be making tough calls…

Therefore, showing your leadership means you are permanent student to learn about your team and industry; permanent parent to take care your employees and business; permanent linchpin to hold your organization together and strong.

This is hard work.

Successful leaders always do the hard work. One thing is worthy of mentioning, they enjoy what they do, even though they do these full of sweets and are covered with mud.

Signals for action

You know that you are the sum of your action. Then are you aware what makes you to take action? What are the signals for you to take action?

Just pause for a second…

What did you do before you read my blog? What did make you to read my blog now?

When you reflect this, what picture appears in front of you? May be you can “see” what makes you to do what you do.

There are some signals that may stimulate or trigger you to take action:

Resonance. Something or someone resonates with your believes, your desires, or your values. You are excited, pumped… you can’t sit still. You get to express yourself. You get to explore these. Therefore, they invigorate your internal engine, your resources, your potentials. You grow.

Dissonance. Something is not aligning well with you. You are angry, sad, frustrated… you want to shout, cry, run, drive your car to 200k/h… you feel the butterfly in your stomach, the noise around you… When this happens, it also makes you crazy and try to figure out what is happening. This is a good signal and opportunity you can’t ignore. You have to do something about it. This is the birthplace for changes.

When you have emotions, you need to have a stop, reflect what is happening, figure out a positive approach, take the action.

Resonance and dissonance are both good signals for you to think and take actions.

Actions make who you are.

Extend yourself

When I say that you have extended yourself in life, how do you feel? what do you see yourself look like?

I feel from time to time that I have extended myself… during those time periods, I feel that I have connected to others, connected to the surroundings from my extremities smoothly, no border, no end… I am in a free flow net – I am part of the net…

My reflection tells me that these moments and periods in life are the time when I generously offer myself to others without any string attached. I honestly give my effort to others from a empathetic place, from a compassionate action. I offer others with my emotional labor. These actions make me feel myself and I’m satisfied with what I do.

The offers I give are not forced.

In fact, offers should be given people in needed and people asked for the needs.

I believe that everyone is Naturally Creative, Resourceful and Whole.

With this believe, we give people benefits of doubts. We give people the chances for trial and failure. Because we believe they can create, find their resource and discover their potential on their, or with some help.

With this believe, we connect with people. We get trust from people. Therefore, we extended ourselves by this bonding and connection.

This is how we make our mark in the world. This is how we make a difference. This is how we an impact to others.

Extend yourself today.

Be quiet

We are living in a very noise environment, literally there is loudly sound at malls, in buses, restaurants…

And the fast- paced world distracts us from our focus, our quiet time, makes our mind spin.

We response automatically to things happening to us and around us, because there is little time to think.

Our time is robbed by constant outside distractions, demands and requests. We feel busy every day. It actually gives us a super facial sense of accomplishment…

… till one day,

one day we suddenly feel somewhat empty, realize that we don’t know how to think any more.

We are so good at responding, it becomes our second nature – our habit. We are drifting in life.

We forget who we are, what we want, how to create our values…

This is the time when you need a quite time.

Be quiet.

Listen to your heart: what makes you happy? Who you are? What is your dream? What do you want?

If you want to do one thing today that gives you a big smile, put your mark on it, what would it be?

Listen to your mind: what can make you sing, smile and jump out of bed in the morning? Do one such thing today, tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow…

Find a quiet moment every day.

In the quiet, you will find yourself again.

The quiet mind is a powerful mind.
The quiet mind is a clear mind.
The quiet mind is the permeate source and engine house for you to discover your endless potential.

Just be quiet.

You are the sum of your action

We have dreams. We pint beautiful pictures for our future. We make plans, New Year’s resolutions and promises.

These are good to certain extent. They can make us excited, happy and satisfied momentarily.

Then we get back to where we are, do as we usually do, talk as we normally talk, go the same route back and forth from home to work place.

And we get numbed, bored, and day dreaming our dreams, future and plans.

Only when you take action towards your dream, your resolutions and your plans, you will be a bit closer to them. You will make a little bit change to your life. You will impact a little bit to the people and environment you’ve reached.

A thousands of miles starts with one step at a time.

This is how you can make a difference to your life. Your action will spill over to others and make others’ life different.

The world needs solid people. The world needs people working on their dreams little by little, bit by bit, drip and drip, generously and graciously and empathetically and compassionately.

You become more valuable because you make others more valuable.

After all, you are the sum of your action.