Tag: change

The other self

Sometimes we are swamped by our daily engagements and obligations. We loose ourselves.

If you step out your body mentally and look at yourself – the other self, you may get insights on how to deal with your situations.

You can look the other self, how does she look like? Is she happy? Is she tied, sad, lost, curious, alert…?

What do you want to say to the other self?

What do you think the other self wants?

What do you want the other self look like? What do you want her to do?

What will she feel if you tell her what you observe, what you think of her?

Try these exercises sometime to yourself when you feel loosing yourself somewhat, or you want to figure out something.

We make progress by doing tests and exercises. To know yourself better is the primary task of your life.

Pressure and step one

You feel pressure. You feel it so strong that may become depressed some what.

However, the most effective way to let the pressure go away slowly or quickly is to face it.

Find your pressure.

Your pressure is the area where you can develop further, very likely.

Start step one to do the very thing that your pressure is coming from. Even the first step is to walk to someone, drive to somewhere, write the first sentence of your essay…

They will make a difference for you.

Forgiveness

The most difficult forgiveness is the one you give yourself.

You may be hard on yourself, critical to yourself, or even frustrated at yourself not meeting other’s judgments.

These can happen to you, to me, and to everyone, because we are all human.

The wise and healthy way to face the situations is to forgive yourself.

You are not perfect.

However, you are who you are. You can do better. You are living your true self.

Your presence itself is perfect. It is the very reason you live the way you want. It is the very reason why you are you, not someone else. It is the very reason you are loved by yourself, by others.

Forgive yourself.

Love yourself more.

Live your true self.

Lost in interpretation

Am American first time travelled to the Netherlands. He went to a restaurant for dinner and ordered a beer.

Waitress gave a bottle of beer.

“Can you open the bottle for me?” He to her when she turned around to leave.

“Can’t you open your own beer?” She shouted it back.

He thinks Dutch are too direct and somewhat not polite.

She thinks people should be independent and do things they can on their own.

A Chinese learns the story, she thinks Dutch is somewhat rude and has bad service in the restaurant.

No one is wrong in their opinions. Without understanding the context, the culture, things got lost in the interpretation.

You heard that culture eats strategy for breakfast.

Know the culture is the key to understand a situation.

Ask and get

A baby is crying. She is crying for milk, she is hungry.

The young couple quickly prepare the milk for her and feed her. She stops crying and drinks her milk. She smiles at her mom and waves her hands happily.

A baby know what she wants and asks for it. Therefore, she gets what she asks for. And she becomes happy for getting she wants.

We adults frustrate because we are not clear for what we want.

Once we know what we want, we will ask for that, then we have a good chance we will get it, which makes us fulfilled and happy.

Find what you want at the first place.

To be heard

My husband and I are going for a market plaza in Jeju island.

When we are getting closer, we can hear loud music and recorded shouting selling voices. Many small stalls owners are competing for consumers attention to get business.

After passing through a few noisy stalls stretches, we see along a few other stretches the stalls are much quieter and pleasant. These small vendors have displayed their goods nicely and attractively.

You see, to be heard does not mean to the loudest one.

To be heard is to find the right audience and serve them whole heartily.

To be heard is to show your strength and display it in a right way – the way your customers like and accept.

The key to be heard is to know your audience and your customers.

The resistance for taking off

Planes always take off against the wind. It is the resistance that planes need for taking off from the ground and climb into the sky.

If you want to make a change, want to do something different, want to learn a new skill, you need to go against the resistance – lazy, pain, self doubt, uncomfortableness, vulnerability.

Only when you head on with your resistance, you will make progress, gain new experience, know how far you can fly.

Resistance is an indicator that you are on the right track to develop yourself further. Know your resistance, go against it to take off.

Why do we read?

I like reading.

I read every day.

If I do not read for one day, my mind knows it. If I do not read for two days, my body knows it. If I do not read for three days, my husband knows it. If I do not read for four days, people working with me know it.

Read for me is a type of meditation. Reading is the time for me to recharge. Reading is the time I communicate with my mind.

Without reading, in the garden of mind weeds may start to grow. Reading keeps the weeds in my mind at the bay, and keeps my mind peaceful and cheerful.

Why do you read? What does reading make you feel?

We read to enrich our mind, body and soul.

A good book not only teaches us new knowledge, it also elicits our internal drives, potentials, and wants. A good book is a good friend, a coach, a resources that we can know more who we are.

Go with the wind

We face many things a day.

We have to make over 60,000decisions daily.

If only we are clear what the top a few decisions for us, we can live a more peaceful and joyful life.

Among the top decisions, those flow with the wind require less energy and give us relative competitive advantages.

Pick those decisions, flow with the wind.

You have better chance to be able to accomplish those goals, better chance to be successful.

The tricky part is to know the direction of the wind – know your environment, know your context, know the culture may affect your decision.

Then, go with the wind.