Sometimes taking a back seat is showing your leadership.
In this case, you fully trust the driver, because you give your permission to let the driver leading the road. And you give your safety to the driver’s hand.
You give your permission to allow the driver making mistakes on the way as well. In an another way, you give your leadership to the driver.
A leader is someone to create leaders.
Taking a back seat is supportive and brave.
We live in an interactive world, and connect with people.
We need to influence others, persuade people every day, vice versa.
Certain words and phrases are powerful when you want to persuade people. And some words and phrases are effective when you refuse other’s persuasion or request.
Such as, the following Words and Phrases can be persuasive:
- Would you mind . . .
- I just wanted to clarify . . .
- Is there anything you can do for me?
- This is just between you and me.
The following words and phrases can be powerful to say No:
- I don’t do that.
- I have a rule…
- Thank you.
- I am not interested.
I use the word “to produce” for my daily reminder to do something useful, because my personal value is to be a useful person.
When I think of “producing” something useful, it inspires me to initiate my action and the action gets me closer to my dreams. “Producing” has been my phrase of action and inspiration.
This weekend, Simone Biles made history at the 2019 US gymnastics Championships. She said during an interview, “I feel like you should never settle just because you are winning or you are at the top. You should always push yourself.”
Biles revealed her internal drive and altitude that makes her a champion by this phrase.
She competes against the greatest competitor – herself.
Don’t ever compete against someone else. You are your number competitor in your life.
What is your phrase to bring you up from the bed every day?
What is the ultimate goal in your life?
I remember a story goes like this: a young man saw a fisherman lying on a beach enjoying sunshine. He came over said to the fisherman: “Why don’t you go fishing? Now it’s the season. You can make a lot of money.”
“What do you make lots of money for?” The fisherman asked.
“I make a lot of money so that I can retire early to enjoy my life.” The young man said.
“I am enjoying my life already. Why do I need to make more money?” The fisherman answered.
Pause a second here. Think what the fisherman said.
It can reasonably say that the ultimate goal in life is to maximize your total lifetime experience of happiness, to enjoy life.
To enjoy life, you get to take care of yourself first. You also get to treat others well in order to enjoy life, because you live in a community, a society.
A happiness formula may include:
- Always learn something new
- Simplify your life
- Help others whenever you can
When you are happy, you make people around you happy. When people around you happy, they sustain your happiness. This is the cycle of life.
Happiness can be contagious. It’s the ultimate goal in life.
What are affirmations?
According to online definition: “Affirmations related to your diet and lifestyle will help in changing you habitual patterns and thinking.”
How do affirmations work?
When you want something badly, you need to remind and tell yourself constantly, say, several times a day if that helps.
Years ago, I was getting my professional coaching skills certified. And I was asked what did I want to do with my coaching certification. I searched in my heart and was sure that I wanted to use my coaching skills together with my technical background to serve people. This affirmation kept coming back to me during that period.
Within a year of completion of my certification, I was offered a position matching my affirmation.
Scott Adams used affirmations when he wanted something happen whole heartily. And things did happen the ways he did affirmations every time.
Affirmations may bring you:
- Clarity on what you want for the time being
- Focus on what you do for the same time being
- Energy to do what you want
- Realizing your affirmation: achieving your goals, or dreams
When you make your affirmations, be clear on what you want. Let your energy flow with what you want. Do this whole heartily. Be persistent, and you will get what you want.
Both my parents were hospitalized for the last two weeks. I was in the middle of preparing some meetings when I heard the news. I cancelled my engagements and went to stay with them in the hospital till they were checked out of the hospital.
I had been calling them once a week and exchanging messages a few times a week before this incident.
I learned from the last two weeks that they need more conversations, that make them feel loved, understood, and connected.
I realize that taking time off to take care of people in your life may sound selfish, you may feel guilty for not doing your job. However, without taking care of ourself, people in our life first, we can’t take good care of what we do.
We live life once.
“Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans.” – John Lennon.
We get to live fully and truly to ourself, live in present, embrace whatever happens to us.
Leadership means you initiate, lead, and do things that may be no one dares to start yet.
Leadership means you need to connect, earn trust, lead the way without a clear roadmap, and be fearless while knowing the fear in you.
Leadership means that you are agile, empathetic, and willing to be in the shadow while your team is in the spotlight…
A leadership needs metamorphosis.
When talking about leadership in a digital world, Charlene Li said:
“This metamorphosis is not easy, comfort, or painless – if your palms are not sweat and your stomach is not churning, you probably haven’t really practicing digital leadership.”
This is also applicable to leadership in any situation.
Leadership with metamorphosis means:
- Having a proactive approach
- Moving on from things she can’t control
- Embracing everything coming to her way and making the best out of it
- Living her life
- Calculating risks
- No gossip