When was last time someone made your day?

What did she do made you happy? What did she say? How did she do it? What were you happy about? In what occasion did this happen? Who else was there? …

Here comes the big questions: If you were her, in her shoes, could you make you happy in that situation?

Think other situations someone made your day. Could you be in her shoes to make her happy?

Making other people is a generous act, it’s kindness, it shows your empathy, it requires selfish-less.

I tried to make someone less unhappy to start with. I found this awareness and action required labor work – emotional labor. I had to work towards it. However, the outcome was liberating. I felt lighter. I felt I have stretched more room for myself. I made someone happier when I was leaving than the time I met her. And amazingly at the same time, I felt happier as well.

Go and make others happy.

We want to change, then we embrace it. We spearhead forward with energy and purpose. We are all good.

We know we will have muscle pains, we will have detours, we will focus on our targets and move, go, go go.

This is a perfect picture.

The little uncomfortableness comes up when we loose our purpose, when we loose our intention, when we victimize ourselves, when we let our ego kidnapped…

There may be some small talks within ourselves, such as blaming others for not doing a good job, or thinking ourselves much more superior. These are the stories or lies we are telling ourselves from time to time. These self talks do not serve us. If we can catch these self dialogues and turn the conversation towards to our true intention, we can release these internal struggles, set us free.

This is the journey for changing. We need to practice it every day, every moment.

Changing happens all the time. It’s permanent

When we feel a little bit uncomfortable, it’s actually a very good thing. Because we know for sure we are on the right track for changing. We are doing something new, grow something new.

People have achieved a lot in their lives saying that if today what they did put them on an edge, it would be a good day. They knew they have explored a little bit more. That uncomfortableness becomes their indicator of progress. accumulated progress makes the difference.

We strive for excellence. We want to success. We want to produce more and give more to the world. In one word: we want to create values.

The value we create by our selves is limited. The value can be amplified by a few ways: we can work hard and deliver the value by ourselves, or we can make an impact to others, therefore the values are bigger.

Make it 1+1 > 2; 2+2 > 4; 4+4 > 8 …

Only we become generous, empathetic, and deliver our labor, we can achieve the amplification.

Start with one step at a time.

When we wear our hat, sometimes and may be lots of times that we forgot we are wearing the hat, because we become so comfortable with wearing the same hat.

If we are doing the same thing every day without improvement, without innovation, without awareness of our purpose doing it, we become so comfortable or may be bored that we forget why we do what we do.

One way to remind ourselves that we do wear a hat is to give a new sensation each time to start wear the hat by changing the position of the hat, or may be add something new to the hat, or change a new hat.

This applies to our daily work. Do something new each day that will contribute to your mission, vision, show your values and have some fun: talk to a colleague you don’t interact often about your ideas, share your thinking with a stranger and ask her a question with curiosity, wear a loud outfit you never tried before… you get the idea.

Get uncomfortable is the way to increase awareness, to learn, to grow new muscles.

When you wear that hat, find new ways to wear it and have fun.

We live in a busy society. We are busy at work, busy at home, busy at planning, and busy at doing or playing many many things.

In a word, we are busy living, or may be not.

When we get busy all the time, we loose our creativity, our resilience, and our happiness. We may collapse.

Like an elastic band, if it’s stretched to its maximum all the time, it will break easily.

Find a quiet time for yourself. Be reflective. Be relaxed. Be loose. Let everything go during these moments.

Find your quiet heart. Listen to your heart.

Pull a chair, sit in front of a mirror. Talk to the you in the mirror. Ask her how is she doing, how does she feel, is this the HER she sees herself? Is this the HER she sees herself in one year, three years, or five years? Is this the HER she sees herself becoming an international marketer, doing marketing coaching and training, making a difference?

Only when you become quiet, you can find yourself, find what your heart is calling, find your true North Star.

Be quiet.

When facing challenges, you may be intimidated by the circumstances and did not speak up. And you regret later for not doing it.

One way to turn around your fear is to focus on your challenges by asking questions. Such as, what situation am I facing? Why am I so scared? Why is it important to me? What can I do to solve the problem, or what resources do I need to help the situation? …

Then you need to speak up, tell others about your thinking process; tell them where you are. Only then, a communication takes place, a bridge begins to build, empathy can happen… ultimately, a change will happen.

Change happens from small things, like speaking up.