The other self

Sometimes we are swamped by our daily engagements and obligations. We loose ourselves.

If you step out your body mentally and look at yourself – the other self, you may get insights on how to deal with your situations.

You can look the other self, how does she look like? Is she happy? Is she tied, sad, lost, curious, alert…?

What do you want to say to the other self?

What do you think the other self wants?

What do you want the other self look like? What do you want her to do?

What will she feel if you tell her what you observe, what you think of her?

Try these exercises sometime to yourself when you feel loosing yourself somewhat, or you want to figure out something.

We make progress by doing tests and exercises. To know yourself better is the primary task of your life.


Pressure and step one

You feel pressure. You feel it so strong that may become depressed some what.

However, the most effective way to let the pressure go away slowly or quickly is to face it.

Find your pressure.

Your pressure is the area where you can develop further, very likely.

Start step one to do the very thing that your pressure is coming from. Even the first step is to walk to someone, drive to somewhere, write the first sentence of your essay…

They will make a difference for you.


The most difficult forgiveness is the one you give yourself.

You may be hard on yourself, critical to yourself, or even frustrated at yourself not meeting other’s judgments.

These can happen to you, to me, and to everyone, because we are all human.

The wise and healthy way to face the situations is to forgive yourself.

You are not perfect.

However, you are who you are. You can do better. You are living your true self.

Your presence itself is perfect. It is the very reason you live the way you want. It is the very reason why you are you, not someone else. It is the very reason you are loved by yourself, by others.

Forgive yourself.

Love yourself more.

Live your true self.

Lost in interpretation

Am American first time travelled to the Netherlands. He went to a restaurant for dinner and ordered a beer.

Waitress gave a bottle of beer.

“Can you open the bottle for me?” He to her when she turned around to leave.

“Can’t you open your own beer?” She shouted it back.

He thinks Dutch are too direct and somewhat not polite.

She thinks people should be independent and do things they can on their own.

A Chinese learns the story, she thinks Dutch is somewhat rude and has bad service in the restaurant.

No one is wrong in their opinions. Without understanding the context, the culture, things got lost in the interpretation.

You heard that culture eats strategy for breakfast.

Know the culture is the key to understand a situation.

Experiments for living truly

Baby cries when she needs something.

Kids ignore their parents’s shouting for dinners when they are absorbed in playing.

Teens hangout with other teens, but not their parents.

They live truly.

For us, the adults. We can experimenting live truly…

Live truly is to live through the highs and lows in life. They are the same…. they are not the measurement of our success.

Live truly tries to Don’t accept NO for an answer.

live truly, you also can treat great success and terrific failure the same way. You are who you are. We pursue our goals through success or failure. They do not change who you are.

Live truly… experimenting… explore

Your best friend

Who was your best friend?

Who is your best friend?


Period. For both questions.

We very often are very critical to ourselves. We are our own the worst enemy.

We talk to ourselves by telling us that we are not good enough, we do wrong things, we are not good looking…

Those small self talks make us small, drag us down, negate our energy.

It is critical for you to catch those negative self talk moments. And turn the thinking around by asking am I judging myself unfairly? Am I comparing my down moments with someone’s strength?

Do I live for my values or live according to other’s view?

Do I make myself a better me than yesterday? Yes, you are right! This is the only question you should ask yourself daily.

Treat yourself as your best friend: talk to her daily by reflection, affirmation and visualization.

The most important connection

When we are on holidays, we all hope the weather is good for outdoor activities.

However, sometimes weather has her own plan.

We are in Jeju island for a vacation. It rains. We decide to go out anyway.

There are not many people at tourist site due to the rain obviously. Then I see this family of three generations: grandma, her daughter and son-in-law, and her two grandchildren.

The grandma holds an umbrella to cover her and her daughter who holding a young kid. The husband walks with other kid wearing rain coats hand in hand leading the way.

They are chatting, laughing cheerfully in the rain. Contrast to others seem in a hurry, they are no hurry at all.

If you have the connection with the most important people in your life, they are the whole world to you. Nothing else matters that much. Rain does not matter too much to the happily connected family.

How many the most connected moments do you have daily? Find them. Treasure them. Live in those moments.