We live in a busy society. We are busy at work, busy at home, busy at planning, and busy at doing or playing many many things.

In a word, we are busy living, or may be not.

When we get busy all the time, we loose our creativity, our resilience, and our happiness. We may collapse.

Like an elastic band, if it’s stretched to its maximum all the time, it will break easily.

Find a quiet time for yourself. Be reflective. Be relaxed. Be loose. Let everything go during these moments.

Find your quiet heart. Listen to your heart.

Pull a chair, sit in front of a mirror. Talk to the you in the mirror. Ask her how is she doing, how does she feel, is this the HER she sees herself? Is this the HER she sees herself in one year, three years, or five years? Is this the HER she sees herself becoming an international marketer, doing marketing coaching and training, making a difference?

Only when you become quiet, you can find yourself, find what your heart is calling, find your true North Star.

Be quiet.

When facing challenges, you may be intimidated by the circumstances and did not speak up. And you regret later for not doing it.

One way to turn around your fear is to focus on your challenges by asking questions. Such as, what situation am I facing? Why am I so scared? Why is it important to me? What can I do to solve the problem, or what resources do I need to help the situation? …

Then you need to speak up, tell others about your thinking process; tell them where you are. Only then, a communication takes place, a bridge begins to build, empathy can happen… ultimately, a change will happen.

Change happens from small things, like speaking up.

We hear a popular saying that you are the average of your closest people.

There is also another saying on a similar note – we can tell who you are from your friends.

I have no doubt that these must have truth in it. However, on the other hand, if we want to grow, want to constant development, we will need renew ourselves and renew our closest people. Otherwise, we will be out of date. We will make less progress.

The six closest people in our life can be and will be changing from time to time, in order for us to realize our biggest potential.

TV shows and movies present heroes and heroines in such a way, it has misled people to think success comes over night.

The reality is that success usually comes with many many hours, months, years of physical and mental labor.

When we are in the long journey, we don’t feel the dramatic change, impact we see from TV shows or movies. What we feel more may be small steps, tiny bit of movement, like water drops…

Chinese proverb says that water drops penetrate stones over time. Research shows that 10,000 hours of effort is needed to get you somewhere.

The difficulty is that we need to walk every step towards our goals and destinations in the journey, in each ordinary day. This requires us to be patient, focused, consistent and resilient.

This all starts with one step at a time.

Influential and successful people share one important trait – consistency.

They are consistent in their actions and in their delivered messages.

When they say they will do one thing, they show up to do it. They are human being like you, me and every one else. They have struggles, difficulties, laziness, needs and wants… They don’t look for excuses for not showing up. They know showing up is their commitment.

Being consistent requires emotional and physical strength and know who you are.

• It requires hard work;
• It requires resilience;
• It requires being on less travelled road alone…

A consistent person is a reliable and trust worthy person. If you consistently deliver your work, little by little – like water drops on stone, you create your marks, your brand, and your influence. You become a leader.

Everything has life.

Everything having life wants to express its existence.

Beans sprout, gingers grow stems, revivers flow, plants flower…

We, human, have inherited our parents’ parents’… genes. We want to live a happy fulfilled life. We want to express our values, our voices, our existences. We want to feel we are alive.

Vitality is the core of our living.

So,

Go out to meet others.

Go out for a run.

Do things you plan to do.

Test new things for adventure.

Eat that frog you dare to try.

Give love to others and yourself.

Life is for us to live with vitality.

What would you do when you dropped into “a shit hole” by mistake?

My friend was working very hard for her new position as a director.

A few months into her position, she dropped herself into “a shit hole” not seeing her surroundings well enough… just like a horse wearing blinders she followed her first year introduction program manager closely, not knowing well what was going on with her teams. When she made minor mistakes, did not step on the right path, she felt into this “deep shit hole” badly.

She is a strong lady. She was composed, not panic, not blaming the manager, tried very hard to figure out what was going on. She asked for help. She gracefully faced her vulnerability… She survived, re-birthed, became stronger ever. She has been being her self consistently.

What a brave lady! Bravo!

This is what she told me: “When facing negative situations, instead of making a negative statement, make a question out of the situation.”

For example, when you are frustrated by something, ask: how can I do about xxx…? What is going on with xxx…? What else can I do about xxx…? How can I make this better…?

When we turn our brain into questions, our thinking is shifting into an activated status – we are actively looking for solutions.

We can turn “a shit hole” experience into a valuable lesson.

Life is here for us to experience, live gracefully and happily after all.

You have great ideas, ideas that may make huge positive impact to people, ideas that may change people’s life for good, ideas may change the society for better.

How do you get people to buy your ideas?

One way to start selling your ideas is to give an impressive speech. Another way to do this is to tell people with stories to illustrate the rewarding experience. The third way to do this is to act on your ideas with people recognizing and accepting your ideas.

You may use all of the approaches to spread your ideas.

The important things are to have the ideas worthy of spreading, and find the right people willingly to accept your ideas, and even better to get those people on board who also want to share the ideas to more others.

This is how a great idea going viral.

A great idea that emotionally engaging, powerful and liberating.

With that idea, the right People will get on board voluntarily.