Giving money to homeless is an act of generosity.

Giving money to your family, relatives, friends, colleagues is an act of generosity.

Giving your time and attention to others is an act of generosity.

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How many other ways do you have to show your generosity?

Generosity can be seen in showing your empathy, your understanding, your sympathy, the doubt of benefit you give to others.

There is one precious generosity is to give ourselves a break from time to time – to allow ourselves being vulnerable, being exposed, surrender and accept ourselves and life.

Live generously, live fully.

We live in a busy world, a hectic world.

Sometimes, we forget who we are, what we want.

We may be mad at other, we may be mean to others, we may be brutal to others, we may even forget we all want similar things: such as love, safety, being understood, being seen…

In essence, human are kind. We need take time to remember this.

We all have multiple roles to play in daily life: boss, leader, colleague, mother, father, wife, husband, son, daughter…

We don’t need bring a role of boss back home. Let the role of boss be at work and play your role of mother, father, son or daughter…

Or you can set up the boundary for a role you need to play and be in that role.

Knowing the role play and being in the role will bring clarity to yourself and better for all.

Author “Anything you want” Derek Sivers said in his book, “Trust, but verify. Remember it when delegating. You have to do both.”

I wish I knew this sooner… because I had learned the very same lesson through my own experience.

I also add more along this notion: Trust, but verify. Especially when you start a new position and with a new person introducing you to the job.

Ask more questions and think through before you take this new person’s suggestion. Ask why, what, how etc., before you follow an action.

Trust, but verify – for better.

Scarcity may be a reality to some people, who lack a shelter, foods, and safety…

For many of us live in cities, scarcity very often is related to our mentality.

We save money for a “raining day”, which we have no idea it will come.

We made mistakes, got lost, we think we have few opportunities for success,

We don’t want to be our best, because we can only be “best” once…

Therefore, we hold off our dreams, let our courages go to sleep…

Life is abundant.

Scarcity mentality limits our awareness, our action, our opportunity, and our happiness.

We have unlimited potential, the scarcity will be to find a way to realize our potential.

Life is a marathon.

We aim for long run.

Therefore, we shall not be disappointed, sad, felt defeated, lost will to live during this long long journey, because we all have temporary wins and losses.

Realizing this fact should remind us to live in present, to be ourselves, to enjoy while we can, and to be the best ourselves each day, each moment when we are conscious…

There is no need to “save” the best thought, best behavior, best gift for another day. No need for delaying. No hiding. As long as we live at the moment, we will have the best self.

Enjoy every bit of the marathon, joy and pain bring multiple favors of life. Let’s fully taste it.

One type of ice breakers are connectors. They can break the ice when meeting with strangers the first time.

There is another situation. She had a bad day at home, and was criticized by her boss at work in front of other colleagues. She could not help, but nastily fight back with her boss… and then she realized what she had done.

She run away from work, hided for a few days.

She came back and was shocked to find her boss treated her friendly, explained to her the situation and apologized to her.

She was embarrassed, felt guilty for what she had done. But her boss broke the ice and had moved on.

Her boss is a brave person, a generous person and a kind person.

Being an ice-breaker needs skills, courages, and generosity.

Ice breakers do not have big ego.

I have been encouraging one colleague to speak his mind for quite a while.

Today, this colleague spoke from the bottom of his heart, clearly and loudly. I am happy for him and gave him thumbs up!

I asked how did he feel afterwards. He said actually he felt relived and light.

Wow! What an incredible feeling, and a courageous action.

We all need give ourselves a little bit push to go forward. When we feel a little bit scary to do or speak, actually it may be the very moment we need push a little bit hard. Like growing a new muscle, we will need experience a little bit uncomfortable, a bit sore, but it is all worth it!

That is how we grow stronger.

When you face a conflict, should you tell the truth…

When you face a scandal, should you tell the truth…

When you under the pressure of a wrong-doing, should you speak out…

Tell the truth.

Make peace with yourself.

Because you are that good!

You stand for yourself.

This weekend, I finished watching the first season British show “After life” directed and acted by Ricky Gervais.

It was a very though provoking show. I highly recommend you to watch it.

It brought the questions: how are going to spend the rest of your life after your life falling apart? How can you pick up yourself and restart again? Are you going to feel misery for yourself for the rest of your life? Or are you going to make a decision to make a difference?

What I learned among many:

• Life is too short to be wasted, enjoy it and make the most out of it!
• Be the change you want to see, make a decision, act on it, from baby step…
• It is never too late to restart again.
• Give your love generously and whole heartily.
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