I volunteer for two days as a judge for National speech and debate tournament for elementary to high school students.
Being a judge is a quite demanding job, taking all my weekends away. However, the speeches, statements and rebuttals given by contestants are wonderful and powerful stimulants. They keep me inspired, moved me and keep me smile and also in deep thought… what a ride!
Reciprocity is the word came to me. I am awarded handsomely.
When we have conflict, it’s usually we have to make a choice from many than one options.
If you face an unknown situation, the conflict very often comes from fear. Courageous is the option for the situation.
In the case of conflict of interest, you need to abstract yourself to a different level. Check what you stand for from bottom of your heart. Back to your original, the place where your heart can sing. Cut through the noise, you will become clear about your option.
When facing other occasions of conflicts, find your quiet mind. Ask your mind, what is your priority? How can you make where you are a better place? Then you will have your choice.
Conflict is a way for us to find ourselves from time to time. It’s a spice for our lives. As long as we know how to savor it, we will grow and live a better life.
Success does not come in one day. It build up by baby steps.
If you can move forward by baby steps everyday, you are darn lucky. Many times you may feel you barely survive.
Some times baby steps mean survive one day at a time.
Every survived days build up. That’ll be how you can get closer to your victory.
Survive is victory.
I know, I have posted a blog on clarity is kind. And clarity is power.
Do you remember the last time when you knew clearly what you wanted, how happy and efficient you got it done?
We struggle when we are not sure where we are, not knowing what has happened, do not know what to do next.
Clarity gives us head start, empower our determination and action.
Have a deep breath whenever you need to get a clarity.
With these three levels of clarity, you are a powerful person.
Many people practicing gratitude believe that it can change one’s life for good, better and great.
My girlfriends practice gratitude daily. She seems hardly aged over the years, always sunny, calm, full of passion…
When Oprah started to write gratitude journal, it changed her life positively. She became who she is today.
In the past, I distrusted a colleague who stabbed in my back. The feeling of distrust towards him actually occupied a space in my mind. Time passed by, the space for the feeling grew larger, because we had to work together for certain things. It made me obviously more uncomfortable.
One day, I decided to do something about this situation. Gratitude came to me. I began to think anything that I could thank him for. Suddenly, I felt that there was a big door opened. I could dump my feeling of distrust into that door. My uneasiness instantly reduced and disappeared later.
Try to list three to five things or people you can thank for by end of each day.
Let miracle does her work.
The dictionary.com gives its definition of ego:
– the “I” or self of any person; a person as thinking, feeling, and willing, and distinguishing itself from the selves of others and from objects of its thought.
– egotism; conceit; self-importance:
– self-esteem or self-image; feelings:
– …
Ego plays such a big role in everyone’s life. It drives why we do what we do, how we do what we do.
Ego is super strong, dominant, also vulnerable and sneaky. It grabs us every moment in life. It dances with us. It watches us. It lives in us. It depends on us to survive.
– We dress us daily – may be according to our ego.
– We present us daily – may be according to our ego.
– We buy stuff daily – may be according to our ego…
Ego drives us crazy. It gives us reasons or goals in life, momentary pleasures and beautiful illusions. It also covers who we really are and what we want. It creates havoc for our lives.
When we are strong, brave, and present, we can beat our ego. We can live a more fulfilled life, a truly satisfactory life.
When we have empathy, sympathy, openness and show our vulnerability, we live in present. Then, we can get rid of our ego snd live in a more free world.
The way to catch our ego is to be focused on who we are and live in present. Only then ego becomes so weak. We will be more free, strong and creative.
Keep your ego in check. Live a better life.
I know many people pursuing high education for their whole life: Master degrees, Ph.D, Doctor, MBA, Executive training, various certifications…
Some of them pursue high education to land a more desirable job, new career; some to satisfy her own curiosity; some to hind from the real life…
Learn is to grow, to use, to be valuable.
The higher education you have, the more demanding for you to share your knowledge with others, to connect with others, to apply your influence to others.
The risk is that the higher education you have created bigger gap for you to apply your learning, meaning fewer people can catch up with you. You may also create steeper learning curve for the people around you.
You can either jump out of the ship to join another boat with the hope they can understand you, or face the reality to figure out how to use your learning to the people in your tribe. If you continue high education without using them, you are hiding. Your education shows little value to your tribe or community.
Knowledge and information are for sharing, applying, and making changes.
High education demands action applying the learning.
We need to let our hair down sometimes.
We need quiet space.
We need relax and have fun.
After all, isn’t it why we love spices?
When we don’t give a d*** about something, we don’t take these things for consideration.
When we don’t give a d*** about someone, we don’t take this person for further consideration.
How do you feel after?
Relief? Light? Clear? Decisive? Feel the determination? And…
Now, what will you feel if you don’t give a d*** about yourself?
Then you don’t have to take yourself too seriously. You don’t have to be on top of everything all the time. You don’t have to be correct all the time. You don’t have to pretend to be “that person” other people expect you to be. You don’t have to be always strong…
You can be yourself freely, any where, any time.
Yay! Freedom!
When you give a d*** about something or somebody, you direct your energy and attention to that thing or that person, or to yourself.
But, you don’t need always to give a d*** about anything, anybody, including yourself. You then will find a new way and new you. You will feel a new birth!
We all busy.
Life can be hectic if we don’t manage it.
There are many things and people in demanding our attention and our decisions.
To make a choice is difficult. It takes courage. It needs your clarity. It needs you to pick up your choice.
Retreat to your senses and make a choice letting you free.
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